One major goal that I would like to achieve this year in my last soccer season in high school is to feel accomplished. When I finish my last season out I want to be able to look back on that season and realize that I tried my hardest and I gave 110% in all of the games. I would love to make more goals then I have with all my older seasons together. I would just like to feel and be the best I can be.
Small Goals
A couple small goals that I can think of to make sure I accomplish my major goal is to take every practice seriously, try and get touches on the ball, and to keep reminding myself of my big goal.
Friday, November 15, 2013
Friday, November 8, 2013
Decisions, Decisions
What if?
The question for this assignment is:
What if you got a divorce what would you do in these situations?
How would you settle property, child custody, divorce costs?
Property? I wouldn't want to live in the house me and my ex-husband bought together and started a family, there would be too many memories. If he wants it could have it,
Child custody? If he was a fit father and not a drunk or anything like that I would just say every other week.
Divorce costs? Well I guess it all depends on why we got a divorce in the first place.
You are a single mom, how would you cope financially and emotionally?
I honestly would just try my hardest to be the best. To not let my kids see me break down or anything like that. I would definitely be looking for a really good job. It would be rough but I think I could do it.
Your parents are elderly and they want to live with you. Yes or no?
What conflicts and adjustments will arise?
I would definitely let my parents live with me. They have done so much for me the least i could do is let them live with me.
Conflicts could be how to raise my kids. I see that a lot in relationships with grandparents.
There will be a lot of adjustments I would need to make. Such as, I would have to have enough room and a big enough house for them, my kids, and myself. I would need to have enough free time on my hands to make sure I can take care of them.
You just remarried. How are you going to discipline? What about chores? Last name? Living place?
Discipline my kids would need to respect the man I marry because that is their step dad and he is an authority to them. I guess I would let him discipline my kids to some extent.
Chores will be divided evenly throughout everyone.
My last name would be changed but not my kids.
Our living place would all depend on my house size, his, and how many kids we both have. If all of those fail we will just invest into a new home.
The question for this assignment is:
What if you got a divorce what would you do in these situations?
How would you settle property, child custody, divorce costs?
Property? I wouldn't want to live in the house me and my ex-husband bought together and started a family, there would be too many memories. If he wants it could have it,
Child custody? If he was a fit father and not a drunk or anything like that I would just say every other week.
Divorce costs? Well I guess it all depends on why we got a divorce in the first place.
You are a single mom, how would you cope financially and emotionally?
I honestly would just try my hardest to be the best. To not let my kids see me break down or anything like that. I would definitely be looking for a really good job. It would be rough but I think I could do it.
Your parents are elderly and they want to live with you. Yes or no?
What conflicts and adjustments will arise?
I would definitely let my parents live with me. They have done so much for me the least i could do is let them live with me.
Conflicts could be how to raise my kids. I see that a lot in relationships with grandparents.
There will be a lot of adjustments I would need to make. Such as, I would have to have enough room and a big enough house for them, my kids, and myself. I would need to have enough free time on my hands to make sure I can take care of them.
You just remarried. How are you going to discipline? What about chores? Last name? Living place?
Discipline my kids would need to respect the man I marry because that is their step dad and he is an authority to them. I guess I would let him discipline my kids to some extent.
Chores will be divided evenly throughout everyone.
My last name would be changed but not my kids.
Our living place would all depend on my house size, his, and how many kids we both have. If all of those fail we will just invest into a new home.
Monday, November 4, 2013
Happy------> After
How to build a relationship:
- Strong Foundation- A relationship starts out with a strong foundation and how a strong foundation takes place is appreciation and respect.My aunt and uncle have a strong foundation because when the other does something they make sure to thank them or to show that they care. They have always done that since the beginning of their relationship.
- Build Healthy Patterns- Even though my aunt does homeschooling and my uncle works at Well Fargo Arena they still find time to spend with each other. Whether they go out to a movie or go out to dinner or even taking their dogs on a walk they still find a way to spend alone time together.
- Explore Each Others Interests- My aunt loves to ride her bike in Ragbrai and has been doing it for about 4 years. My uncle isn't really big on doing that but he does it every year because he knows she enjoys his company. My uncle loves going up North to fish and likes to camp up there, my aunt doesn't mine fishing but she would like to be doing other things. But she does it because that's what my uncle is interested in it.
- Establish A Pattern Of Apologizing- Honestly I have never really heard them apologize because they rarely ever fight. But I could see my aunt apologizing right after something happens but my uncle would take some time and calm down then apologize.
Friday, November 1, 2013
Happy-----> Before
My assignment was to pick a couple who I think has a good relationship.I picked my Aunt Barbara and my Uncle Jim. They have been married for 17 years. I feel they have a good relationship because I am around them a lot I see what other people like strangers don't. They never usually yell at each other they always talk about things when they disagree. They understand where the other person is coming from when they do disagree. They have good communication to each other and they are very understanding.
I connected with them a lot because I am close with them and I count them as my second home. I thought they are a good couple because even though I am family I never really see much conflict between them and If I do they handle it very well.
I asked my Aunt Barbara why does she think she has a good relationship. She answered "I think we have a good relationship because we are tolerant and patient with each others weaknesses, and try to encourage each other in our strengths. When times get rough we remind each other how blessed we are. Over the years we have learned what battles are worth fighting for, and we have found out there really isn't any. Fortunately, we have the same goals and ideas about money, religion, and how we want our kids raised so there really isn't any reason to fight. I believe putting each other before ourselves has been helpful, but hard at times. I really can't imagine a better match for me than him."
I then asked her what they key to a good relationship is.She replied "Selfishness, putting each other first, good listening, and a desire to meet each others needs, also a lot of prayer."
I am really glad I picked this couple as my assignment because they are just a perfect couple to look up to.Not only because they treat each other how they should but because they both have a good relationship with God and to me, that's very important.
I connected with them a lot because I am close with them and I count them as my second home. I thought they are a good couple because even though I am family I never really see much conflict between them and If I do they handle it very well.
I asked my Aunt Barbara why does she think she has a good relationship. She answered "I think we have a good relationship because we are tolerant and patient with each others weaknesses, and try to encourage each other in our strengths. When times get rough we remind each other how blessed we are. Over the years we have learned what battles are worth fighting for, and we have found out there really isn't any. Fortunately, we have the same goals and ideas about money, religion, and how we want our kids raised so there really isn't any reason to fight. I believe putting each other before ourselves has been helpful, but hard at times. I really can't imagine a better match for me than him."
I then asked her what they key to a good relationship is.She replied "Selfishness, putting each other first, good listening, and a desire to meet each others needs, also a lot of prayer."
I am really glad I picked this couple as my assignment because they are just a perfect couple to look up to.Not only because they treat each other how they should but because they both have a good relationship with God and to me, that's very important.
Thursday, October 17, 2013
Follow Me
So I started following ---->http://www.elffamilyblog.com/search?updated-max=2013-09-09T20:50:00-05:00&max-results=7 for one of my assignments. This lady's name is Libby. She is a wife, a mom of two and a high school teacher. I think the main reason why I wanted to follow her is she kind of seems young. When i read her posts she talks as i would. She cares so much of kids and i can totally tell that. She gives good advice to about babies and motherhood. I absolutely love how Libby always shares pictures of her kids! they are so adorable and she is always telling a story about what they did/ doing!
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